Unimoons: Who needs a husband for a honeymoon?
It's no secret that on average Americans don't really get a lot of vacation days. That coupled with the fact that some bosses make us feel as if we need to eat, sleep and live in our cubicles and devote all our time to the company so we're consumed with guilt if we just need a day to ourselves. It's a sick trend and one that's slowly affecting our personal lives. In a new book titled New Slow City: Living Simply in the World's Fastest City, writer Bill Powers explains about the latest plans amongst super busy newly weds: unimoons.
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So what's a unimoon? Well it's essentially a honeymoon for one spouse, meaning each partner takes his or her trip when it's most convenient for him or her. No more having to wait or compromise or try to hash out a plan that works for both parties. Sounds like a wonderful way to learn how marriage works, right? Right. Um, no.
My confusion lies in a) You really couldn't find any time in all the coming months and years to take a trip together? And b) why not just call it a trip without adding the "solo honeymoon" bit to it? Everyone's perfectly allowed to travel on their own. In fact, I highly recommend it! You'll have the right to be selfish, lavish yourself, try whatever your heart desires, push yourself past your comfort zone, and learn quite a few things about yourself along the way. But the beautiful part about a honeymoon is that you get to share it with the person you love. You get to spend intimate time together, which from what I hear is much-needed after the hectic wedding planning is finally over. In other words, it's a wonderful prelude to the next chapter in your life together.
In Powers' case, he wandered through one of the most romantic cities on Earth--Paris--alone while his wife soaked in the sun in the Dominican Republic. Another travel writer, Ann Abel, decided to stay behind after her honeymoon with her husband in order to chase a freelance story in Southeast Asia. I get wanting to bite at every bit to "make money and build my brand," but come on! You're there to enjoy your time together, to explore new things, and build memories.
I'm not saying that being passionate about your career isn't also incredibly fulfilling, but at what point can we say that we're losing interpersonal connections in favor of work, work, work? Abel is no longer with her husband and while she doesn't blame their divorce on her decision to extend her trip without him, she also doesn't recommend it. Even Powers said the same: it's just better to take the time to truly spend it together whether it's a flight across the world or sweet staycation right at home.
I couldn't agree more.
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