5 Sex secrets your man will never reveal to you

There are always unspoken truths among partners--especially when it comes to the bedroom. The fact is, there are certain things that are better left unsaid, but what if those little secrets were actually stopping you from being a better sex partner in the bedroom? Don't worry. We are decoding all of the sex secrets your man will never reveal to you. Yes, we are going there...

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1. He fears not meeting your expectations: No matter how long a couple has been dating or married, a man always wants to satisfy in the bedroom. If you don't have sex that often, he may be thinking that the low session counts may be his fault. Licensed clinical psychologist Adam Sheck explains, "Your husband wants to know that he's 'doing his job,' but he doesn't want to know if he's not," he explains. What should you do if you aren't feeling the mojo? "Focus the conversation on what you like. The more fun and 'no biggie' you make things, the less likely his ego will take a hit," he advises.

2. He wants you to perform oral sex for longer: Sure, most men are grateful for what they get in this department, but what he isn't telling you is that he wishes the blowjob lasted longer! Also, performing the same routine can be less gratifying for him. Sex expert Sean Jameson writes, "If you are someone who uses the same old techniques over and over again on your man, then he is going to get bored fast." Switch it up and improve your stamina. Try going all the way with it from time to time. His penis will thank you for it.

3. He wants you to masturbate: Most guys are down for a quickie, but let's face it--they are visual creatures. They may not request it, but they are definitely hoping you will pleasure yourself in front of them. Doing so will improve your intimacy and lead to more intense lovemaking.

4. He doesn't always want to have sex: Believe it or not, men aren't always in the mood to get it on. It's also totally natural for a man's sex drive to decrease with age. Jeanne O'Connell, MD, medical director and cofounder of Sylvana Institute for Medical Aesthetics, explains that this doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you. She suggests, "Try not to take it personally if he used to want to tear off your clothes when you walked in the door and now he hardly notices the new skirt you're wearing." Instead, communicate with him about your feelings and allow him to voice his.

5. He wants you to love your body: Guess what? Men secretly hate when we put ourselves down while in the bedroom. Whether it is commenting on your chichos or not wanting to leave the light on, those insecurities change the connection he has with you in the bedroom. The last thing he is thinking about are your flaws so just let it go and enjoy the heat of the moment.  
 
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