I dream of other men & I told my husband ...

I don't think it's strange that I have dreams of other men. I think it's perfectly normal and I know that my husband dreams of other women, which doesn't bother me one bit. Most of the time when I have steamy dreams about other men, I don't tell my husband because he doesn't want to hear how I subconsciously got it on with Adrien Brody (I like big noses) or Simon Baker (I like his smirk) or the cute checker from the grocery store (I like groceries). Just like I don't want to hear the details of what goes on in his sordid dreams.

Recently, though, night after night I was dreaming about other men. Intense dreams, the kind of dreams that wouldn't leave me in the morning. I started to worry and I decided to tell my husband about them.

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Here's the thing, the dreams that I was having about other men had nothing to do with sex. They were much worse. I wasn't having sex with other men night after night in my dreams, I was FALLING IN LOVE with them. That's why the dreams wouldn't leave me when I woke up because I would wake up with this feeling of love that would linger and it bothered me.

After several nights of this, I looked at my husband and said, "I've been dreaming of other men." He rolled his eyes and made it clear he did not want to hear about it. I said, "No, not like that," and then I explained that I wasn't touching these men or being physical at all with them, instead I was falling in love with them. I told him that worried me because in the entire time we have been together I had NEVER had those types of dreams before. I told him I didn't think it was a good thing and that we should focus more on our romantic relationship. Throughout the conversation, which was really just me talking, he looked at me and didn't say much. Then he had to go to work.

About an hour later, I got a text from him asking me out on a date for that night. I'm not kidding you that just like that because he cared enough to do something immediately, I fell in love with him all over again. We did go out on a date that night and I haven't had a dream about falling in love with another man since then.

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