The topic of this week is quite delicate, but I'm glad the anonymous member of our Confesiones group dared to share her dilemma because maybe other women have gone through something similar. The issue is that this woman says her husband has a sexual fantasy in which she has sex with another woman while he watches. But she says she does not know what to do because she has no interest in doing that and although she's told him so, her husband keeps insisting and even looks for women on the Internet for her.

This is the message the woman left in our Confesiones forum:

Hello I am Mexican. As you know, we are very modest. My husband has a sexual fantasy in which he wants me to have sex with a woman while he watches me doing it with her. He says that women here in USA do it all the time ... Actually, I can't  imagine myself in a bed with a woman. I like men. What do you guys think?

The women in the group did not hesitate to answer her question the same way I would: Never do something you do not feel comfortable with just to please someone else. I think this woman should talk to her husband again and assure him once and for all that she has no interest in doing what he is asking. He needs to understand that she also has the right to say what she wants and what she doesn't.

What would you advise this woman?

And remember to check out our Confesiones forum where you'll always find those topics we all like to talk about as long as we can remain anonymous!

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I personally would not do it. My husband is only mine and I am only his and there is no need to have someone else in our relationship.
i guess his husband should understand. that her wife can dare to do that and her wife is not a robot.

Situations like this are what break up a marriage.  You should never do something that's going to make you feel uncomforatble just to please your husband.  Tell him to get it out of his mind because it's never going to happen.  There are other ways to spice up your marriage.  Think of something that you both will agree too.

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The Bible is clear about lusting and affairs, it is forbidden! If this were my husband I would be praying all the time and having everyone I know pray for him to get the evil out of his head. Just because society glorifies affairs and we have become a numb society with little morals does not make it ok in God's eyes. It is not ok, its another one of satan's lies thats out there to destroy marriages. Satan hates marriage and anything good anything of God. Don't be fooled. A man can be saved through his wife of faith. Blessings to all you Guerreiras :)

tell him you will do it after He does it with a guy. lol

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Very true!! Very true kgmmw: Hubby only mine and I'm his!! I would never please my hubby his fantasies!!! Let him imagine them and that's it!! I cannot ever see myself in bed with another female!! I think i would just talk to my husband for once and for all to quit his habit or everything ends for once and for all...
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Don't do it! Not only are you uncomfortable with it, which would bother you for a long time to come, you would be committing adultery. Even if your husband says he's OK with it now, it would come up at some later time when you are arguing about something, and he will harp on it. Bad idea all the way around! Be firm about it with your husband, but also tell him that he is all you need in bed, so it might give him a little ego boost in the process.
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Leave his ass he is crazy, He is going to do this with someone else.
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Perhaps he'd back off if she mentioned that turn about is fair play and if she does that for him, then he should expect to find another man in their bed at some point and he'll be expected to perform for her....from experience I can tell you all this guy wants if for things to get hot and heavy so he can join in. Get him a girl on girl porn tape and let him have some privacy. He'll get over it.
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From a mans perspective...tell him to grow up, and untrist his warmed mind. :) If it may want to reconsider the relationship because he has some serious issues there that will eventually lead to other problems. I say this because thats an extremely SELFISH demand/expectation!
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