We're still holding on to Abuelita's beliefs about marriage

It's no question that our society is always growing and evolving, especially about the roles of women. I mean, unlike a couple hundred years, these days we can own property, vote, and marry whoever we want. When it comes to marriage, though, even after all of the ways that we ladies have advanced in society, it seems that we still have the traditionally held belief that when it comes to a marriage proposal, it is NOT okay for a woman to propose to a man.

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According to the new study from the University of California at Santa Cruz (a place that I would have expected to be more liberal than most), "not a single man or woman wanted a proposal in which the woman asked the man to marry her" reports LiveScience.com. Meanwhile, 60 percent of women said they were "very willing" or "somewhat willing" to change their last name to their husband's, 64 percent of men said they were "very unwilling" or "somewhat unwilling" to do the same.

So, what's going on here? To me, it seems that when it comes to some marriage traditions, we still uphold the beliefs of our abuelitas. The man should propose and the woman should change her last name. But what happened to women not being property? These traditional ideas seem to kind of conflict when we're, you know, almost at 2013. Shouldn't we be a little bit more willing to compromise at this point?

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Of course, all of this simply comes down to personal choice but it does piss me off a little how we say women are equal but we're still earning 77 cents to the male dollar (with Latinas earning only 60 cents to the white male dollar) and apparently we can't even choose when we get married! To be honest, I'm not sure that I would be brave enough to propose marriage to my man but I certainly hope that, should I choose to, I wouldn't be looked down upon for doing so!

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