Study claims husbands who do chores are unhappy & I don't believe this one bit

I'm dubious of 'The Equality in the Home' study that found that the divorce rate is higher among couples who divide household labor. Thomas Hansen, one of the Norwegian authors of the study, suggests that blending the gender roles leads to unhappiness, confusion, and arguments.

To some degree I can understand that sometimes women feel like they have to direct and instruct their husband on how to properly change a diaper or feed a child at a normal lunch hour. It happens. Same thing occurs when a wife is doing anything with a hammer. I'm generalizing, but you get it.

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Hansen believes that is a source of marital trouble. In Hansen's words: "What we've seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn't necessarily contribute to contentment. Maybe it's sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the other's toes. There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight."

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I won't say that those situations have never caused a disagreement, but I really doubt they're a cause for divorce.

I just can't imagine this conclusion coming from their female respondents in the study. Modern women are so overwhelmed with work, rearing children, and household chores, that they welcome and should ask for help. The pressure of being a super mom or a super wife is so powerful that some women take drugs like Adderall to do it all!

While a woman's share of responsibilities has increased, many would say it hasn't for a man. I can't imagine that a husband in a healthy relationship with his wife would be resentful that the woman he loves needs help.

On the other hand, Hansen goes on to point out that a stronger reason today's woman is likely to file for divorce is that a job makes her financially stable. That part of the 'Equality in the Home' study makes sense to me.

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