Don't even THINK of deleting your ex from Facebook (VIDEO)
Even though the old saying goes: "Ojos que no ven, corazón que no siente" (or "What you don't see, can't hurt you"), scientists recently confirmed that the best way to get over a failed relationship is NOT to erase your ex from your life completely. Since we're living in the age of social media, that means keeping your ex among as a "friend" on Facebook!
It seems counterproductive, right? I'm sure that at one time or another, you've been obsessed with someone who doesn't necesarrily reciprocate your feelings. It happened to me, and I felt awful any time he was even mentioned. For a long time, I felt like my heart would break all over again any time someone would tell me how well he was doing.
Psychologist Tara C. Marshall of Brunel University in London confirms a study published Live Science magazine , that although following every move your ex honey makes on social networking sites isn't good for your healing process, neither is cutting him off completely by unfriending him.
"Former partners with whom we are no longer in contact...may remain shrouded in an alluring mystique, suggesting that remaining Facebook friends with an ex-partner may actually help rather than harm one's post-breakup recovery."
In other words: We begin obsessing over whether or not they're happier than us, we only remember the good times, we start to put the relationship on a pedestal and envision this perfection that just isn't reality.
So, ladies, if you do break up, keep him on your friends list, but try to be disciplined and don't stalk his page every 5 minutes or check his list of friends for new (female) additions! Fill your new life with activities and remember that the best revenge is living a full and happy life.
Many of you may know that Franco de Vita song "Si la ves," in which he basically tells his friends to tell his ex that he's happy and never been better. Take a page from his book! If you've never heard the song, I leave you with the video below so you can get inspired to move on--and sing along!
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