Are 50 Shades of Grey-style sex contracts a good idea for women?
50 Shades of Grey has had an obvious impact on the way women think about sex. The latest book-inspired trend that ladies are exploring in the bedroom? Sexual contracts!
In 50 Shades, the two main characters, Christian and Ana, create a proposal to establish specific rules for their relationship, known as "The Contract." It contains "safe words," a list of sexual activities Ana is comfortable trying or ones she would never do, and specific details as to what Christian provides her in return (which in the novel is money and clothes). Now, it looks like real-life women are using this same type of contract in their own relationships--and for good reason!
In an article for the Huffington Post, sex therapist Petra Zebroff says that sex contracts can actually lead to better sex. Why? Creating a contract involves openly talking about you and your partner's needs, desires, and curiosities. It can also help pre-establish any limits or boundaries you want known and help you avoid any awkward moments during sex.
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"When we know our partner knows and respects our limits, we feel safe about relaxing into the things we look forward to doing," Zebroff wrote.
Personally, I think it's a good idea, at least to an extent. While outlining and planning every single detail of one's sex life sounds like overkill (hey, everyone needs some spontaneity), I do agree that creating an open discussion between you and your partner can be beneficial--and fun!--for both parties. At the very least, you're bound to learn something new about yourself or your loved one's interests.
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