Why I NEVER want to have a big, traditional Latin wedding!

Let me start off by saying that I am not yet getting married, close to getting married or even looking for potential husbands. However, my 27-year-old older sister is in the process of planning her wedding for March of 2013 and as her maid of honor, I have seen and had to help deal with the multiple nervous breakdowns she has had throughout her looong engagement (two years but it seems like a century). And it's made me realize one thing: I would NEVER, ever want to have a huge, traditional, Latin wedding.


Don't get me wrong! I have loved helping my sister out and have been there for here every step of the way, from accompanying her to various florists to crying like a baby when she finally found her dress to looking at version after slightly-altered version of her Save the Dates. But seeing how anxious and stressed the whole thing has made her (and by extension, me and a lot of my other family members) has only reaffirmed what I've pretty much always known—which is that when I get married, I want the smallest wedding possible.

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As a Latina, I'm used to and enjoy having huge parties with dozens of friends and relatives. But I want my wedding ceremony to be totally different than my family's usual HUGE, loud festivities. Why? For starters, I am not a planner. I am much more of a spontaneous, go-with-the-flow, whatever happens, happens kind of gal. So I think having to make that many pre-planned decisions while also trying to be budget-concious would literally send me to the loony bin.

Plus, I hate being the center of attention—it's so much pressure! I mean, I'm sure I'll already be super nervous and semi-panicked about entering such a big, important chapter of my life. I don't need 200 extra people (the estimated number of guests for my sister's wedding) to watch me freak out! If it was up to me, I would get married on a beach with just my groom and immediate family members only and then maybe throw a bigger, celebratory party with the rest of my family somewhere else later on.

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That being said, because I do come from a big, traditional Latin family, I will be the first to admit that this dream might very well be impossible…mainly because having such a small ceremony would  most likely seriously offend my tias and tios, primos and my bisabuela. In fact, I'm pretty sure I would get disowned by certain family members, particularly mis padrinos—which is why EVENTUALLY I'll have to either suck it up and deal or come up with a very creative solution. Any ideas?

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on Jul 10, 2012 at 6:39 PM

Elope! Jajaj!!! Just kidding! I imagine that would be worse! I'm Latina and I had a very, very small wedding with very little time to plan it (and I wasn't pregnant or anything like that, just thought the world was coming to an end after 9/11) and it was the best thing in the world! My friends and family still talk about it all the time... Buena suerte!

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on Jul 11, 2012 at 3:36 PM

I agree that big weddings are stressful. Many brides also feel pressured into big weddings because of parental expections. It's recipe for crying (in a bad way) and arguments.

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on Jul 12, 2012 at 7:47 AM

My wedding 5 years ago was a traditional Mexican Wedding but much more like the ones they usually celabrate in Mexico, no maid of honor, damas or any of those.. It started with the ceremony with a Surprise Tamborazo that followed us outside the church. At the reception more Tamborazo to start the party.. we had dinner but not fancy dinner which takes alot of time from the fun... when everyone ate we started with the traditional ramo, liga, vivora etc followed by the valz of mom, dad, brothers, sisters... then the bride groom valz. After that all dancing dancing the night away it was from 6-1am approx 350 people... we had such a blast I thought I was going to be nervous because im not used to being the center of attention... but it was great!!!

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