Sex does NOT always equal intimacy
Ok sexy ladies, I just read something that called my attention, it turns out that not everyone wants to have sex.
Can you believe that?
I'm not talking about the "I don't want to have sex because I have a headache" situation--I'm talking about a way of life in which zero sex is involved.
It has been estimated that about 1% of the population are asexual, meaning they have no interest in sex or feel any sexual attraction at all. In this manner, asexuality has become an orientation--almost a movement--and David Jay (whom considers himself Asexual) is the leader of this movement.
He launched a very interesting website, Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). The online community is dedicated to raising awareness of asexuality and providing support to people who identify as asexual. David Jay has appeared on many talk shows and he's starring in a new documentary called (A)sexual. He worries about the amount of disbelieving responses that flood the site whenever the subject of asexuality is raised in the media and I have to agree with him. People (me included, for which I am sorry) often think that asexuality is weird, that it's a form of repression or trauma in disguise.
But David Jay believes that people find asexuality alien because they equate intimacy with sex. "When I say 'not drawn to sex' they hear 'not drawn to intimacy' and that's not right. Sex itself is just a set of physical activities, intimacy is not just sex."
So let's talk about intimacy then, I agree that intimacy is not only sex and that a very deep connection can arise with someone, without the sexual act. However, when we feel that intimacy we want "more" and that "more" will certainly bring in the sex and the passion associate with that, sooner or later (hopefully).
In any case, I am happy to hear that 1% of the population who don't have sex drive at all have found ways to have intimacy in their lives. At least they are not missing out on that.
Life with a lack of intimacy doesn't sound that good to me.
Do you think intimacy can be achieved without sex at all?
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