Are you "allowed" to have male friends?
My husband swears he's not jealous of my male friends, but I know he is, even if just a little. Then again, I have to admit I feel the same way about his female friends, some of whom, in the past, have acted way too chummy for my taste. I guess it all has to do with the age-old question that asks whether men and women can actually be friends? Or is the risk of becoming attracted to each other always looming overhead?
Well, according to a recent study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, the question we should be asking ourselves is not whether we can be friends but rather whether we should be friends?
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Check out the results of the study conducted among 400 adults between the ages of 18 and 52: Attraction between male and female friends is not only common, but it's also potentially costly. Lead author April Bleske-Rechek, associate professor of psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire had this to say about the findings:
I'd venture to say, based on all our data, that in the majority of (opposite-sex) friendships there's at least a low level of attraction. And if it's coming more from one friend than the other, it's probably the guy.
I kind of figured that would be so in some cases because it's happened to me, but I didn't know it's be so prevalent and persistent as shown by the results of this study.
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So, does that mean that both my husband and I are right to feel jealous of each other's friends from the opposite-sex? Who knows? But this much I know is true: These days, I can count in only ne hand the males I consider true friends. Whereas when I was younger, I used to have more male friends than female friends. I'm not sure why that was the case exactly, but it seemed to me like I got along better with them than I did with women. (I guess it's because they're not as complicated as us.) Today, I feel the opposite.
Do you have male friends? What does your husband think about that? Please share with us in the comment area below.
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