Oversharing online will probably piss off your significant other...duh

Yup, it seems like pretty basic knowledge, but I guess some ladies are surprised to find out that their hubbies don't want them flapping their traps about intimate details of their lives together.

I'm a writer, so believe me, I've experienced this first hand! I'm also sort of known to provide TMI at times so I've had my fair share of: "WHY did you tell people that?!" from the man in my life. I get it, I really do, but I also feel like sometimes you just have to put your stuff out there if you are trying to make a point so that people can relate.

How good does it feel when you are sad and depressed and feeling all alone to go online and see that you are not the only one going through hardship? It's the real wonder of technology like the internet that brings us all together.

But there is a line that shouldn't be crossed unless you are planning on relying more on your internet relationships than your real ones. Take for example...

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The case of Rosanne Cash, she of REALLY famous parents (Johnny Cash and June Carter) who happens to have a robust Twitter following of approximately 45 thousand fans. She's married to Grammy-winning musician John Leventhal and he is NOT happy with her constant Tweeting about their activities and his napping habits. I get it, it's really no one's business and also, it's not like her calling her hubby out for fun is actually going to help anyone say, the same way a woman writing about having an abortion or fertility problems might.

So, point to Leventhal! He wins this round of the social media wars. But a new NY Times article points out that it's no longer Ok to just assume that you and your partner feel the same way about social media and what is alright or off-limits when it comes to sharing with your virtual "friends."

"There is a standard negotiation that takes place in lots of relationships, but now there are multiple audiences watching," said Lee Rainie, the director of the Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life Project, which explores technology and human behavior. "There will be awkward moments, even more so if that negotiation is played out in public."

I totally get it, and I agree that the new social media landscape has to be negotiated with your partner before you just go off posting inappropriate photos and telling private stories. But there also comes a point when you have to let you loved ones be who they are. Take for example, the case of hilarious comedienne Ali Wentworth and her opposites-attract marriage to George Stephanopoulos. Wentworth has a large Twitter following which she showers with pithy commentary and funny advice. Stephanopoulos clearly has a more serious job which requires him to keep his Twitter feed on the straight and narrow.

So, how does he handle his wife's sometimes off-color commentary? "I have sort of a simple rule," Mr. Stephanopoulos says. "Don't ask, don't read." THAT right there is a wise man!

Do you ever fight with your significant other about information they post online?

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