Husband discovers wife used to be a man after 19 years of marriage, immediately files for divorce

They say that you can be close to someone and never truly know who they are. This was the case for a 64-year-old Belgian man who claims his Indonesian wife, 'Monica' of 19 years used to be a man. The shocking discovery came after a reunion with his wife's family, when her cousin laid the truth on him.

According to the U.K. Daily Mail, the man, who has been identified only as Jan, had been married twice before and says he met 'Monica' during a tumultuous time in his last marriage when they fell in love. He claims that he never would have thought that she had been a man during their marriage and courtship because she had all feminine qualities. Most recently, their relationship had been on the rocks and it's most obvious that her little secret didn't help their marital issues.


My initial reaction to this story was utter laughter, but then I thought: How crazy would it be to find out your significant other wasn't who you thought they were? What makes this man's story more outrageous is the fact that they were married for almost two decades! People complain that dating is difficult and this situation makes it seem like asking about any sex changes on the first date is a good idea.

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According to Jan, he met 'Monica' when she was 27 years old and although she had no interest in having children (hmm, I wonder why), he was fine with it since he already had two. But he did have a few clues that his wife was a little bit "different" than most women. One of which was the fact that she couldn't clean or iron well--HA!

However, as many love stories go, their relationship was on the rocks within the last couple of years. Jan says, 'Monica' started staying out late, wearing tiny revealing clothing, and checking out young men online. After learning of his wife's well kept secret, he confronted her and she admitted that she had been a boy at one point. The outraged husband claims he felt betrayed and although a judge didn't allow him to evict her, they still live under the same roof, but sleep in separate bedrooms.

I still find it impossible to believe that Jan didn't have a clue that his wife was a transgender after all those years of marriage. It must feel like the greatest form of deception to not be told a secret so big by your spouse. But at the same time I can't blame 'Monica' for keeping it to herself. Telling your hubby something like that would make things weird and complicated. Hopefully she finds someone who will love her for who she is despite her past, and maybe Jan will get lucky and meet someone who is all woman.

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