Prop 8 ruling is just another way marriage is changing in America

A panel of three judges on the 9th circuit in California just decided that the state's passage of the controversial Proposition 8 violates the civil rights of gays and lesbians. Prop 8 was passed after a Supreme court had already ruled that same-sex couples had the constitutional right to marry, so I'm thrilled that justice is FINALLY served for all those couples who want to be married and deserve the right to do so.

I don't understand why what other people do in the privacy of their own homes is any of our business at all. A lot of opponents to same-sex marriage say that legalizing the unions of LGBT couples will lead us down a slippery slope to...where, exactly? I mean, come on, let's just have a reality check for a quick second OK:

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Around half of all marriages end in divorce. A ton of straight folks aren't really into the whole marriage thing anymore anyways, the rate of single, unmarried women in the U.S. has been climbing steadily since 1998, indicating the fact that a lot of people just aren't down with the "Til death do us part"-style of commitment.

Really, the only place that marriage still seems to be going strong is among the wealthy, who seem to have found a new way to concentrate their riches among a select group by marrying each other!

I am married, don't get me wrong. I think marriage is a beautiful thing as long as it's done for the right reasons, but I am by no means disillusioned about the kind of societal contract it creates. I was not married for religious reasons, or to make my parents happy. My husband and I decided to get married because we wanted to celebrate our long-term commitment to each other and because, honestly, we want to have children some day and are fully aware of the importance of being legally linked to each other for their future protection.

If a same-sex couple wants to get married, they should have any and all rights to drive each other crazy! All this means is that there will be more seriously committed, legally bound couples in the country, and how is that a bad thing? Marriage is hard, and it's serious, and it's something that anyone who loves another of-age, consenting adult should have the legal right to do.

There is no way that Prop 8 would ever survive any test of constitutionality, so this ruling really comes as no surprise to me. The last laws we had on our books that restrained people's rights instead of expanding them had to do with slavery and voting--I would've hoped we learned our lesson as Americans by now, but I guess we still have a long way to go.

What do you think about same-sex marriage? Are you glad that Prop 8 was overturned?


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